1.According to what others do.
2.Sit well with your pure Heart intentions.
3.Has a regular pattern and habit.
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With every challenge you are facing in your life, there are also some questions which you need to find the answers for yourself in order to be able to move in the direction that you want or believe that you are going to. Once you have those questions in place you are starting to look for answers. In your quest to provide yourself with answers, one needs to pay attention for the personal system of how you are looking for answers. Force of habit can take you always to a comfortable place that you are familiar with and guide yourself through with the answers, or using a regular pattern of steps that leads you to the answers, which might be that because of how comfortable you keep yourself or not doing the effort, you simply preventing yourself from reaching to the core true answers that you are really looking to find.
Beside of the part of knowing to ask yourself the right questions, there is the personal work of leading yourself to find the answers which can be not just what you would like to hear or know, but the ones that will lead you forward with a better action approach, with no fear or worries from making any mistakes while keeping in mind that you can always ask yourself the same question again as you collect more information and able to learn better for yourself how to move on. For someone that believe that the answers has been found and able to ask the same question once again, only to recognize and to see if the answers sit well with what your pure Heart intentions wants for you, and that you haven’t rush to pick an answers just because you feel that you are falling behind or need to act accordingly. Important answers will always meet you within your pure Heart and will provide you with that great sense of knowing to act and not to respond. When you remember to evaluate your answers from a clear place, you remove any emotions, any ego, any stress or any personal pressure to act quickly. You let yourself a moment to review everything from a that pure place and clear mind to understand better why you even came up with that answer. Also for a gut feeling or a “I just know” answer, there is an explanation that can bring a deeper logical meaning for the answer that you want to use in a good healthy practice.
When you trust yourself to move yourself out of the frame of what you use to, to step into places with your own personal beaming light of observation rather the dependence on the light that shine on places where the answers are limited, to look beyond the places where there is a crowd that reaching to that source, to make that effort that take you from your comfort zone, the excavation for the answers that you will find, will only provide you a place of stability and personal humility for the confidence that you express yourself and able to have others to acknowledge what you have come up with and accept your answers with a full trust at you. There is a value for your personal spiritual growth and your personal experiences are for a good reason that only you know.