1.Having an interesting flower to care for.
2.A day with no end.
3.Dealing with a person that you can’t trust or hold to their words.
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You don’t know when you meet a narcissist at the first time, and when you realize that, in some cases, it can be too late. However, as late as it can be, once you realize that you are dealing with a Narcissist, you have to FREE yourself from this connection, and never look back. To be in any association with a Narcissist, is to understand that you are not in a relationship with that person, you are under their control and have been manipulated by them night and day. If you have people in your life that after being with them, you feel emotionally drained, you need to check with yourself if you are actually dealing with a Narcissist. They have a way, from the first moment you see them, to speak in the most sweet way to get you, and later, you will suddenly will realize that you walked into the spider web trap.
When they are in a relationship, personal, social or work environment, they will feel the need to be on top and very much in control. The result is, that in the personal relationship their other partner very quickly will have no voice or personality, in their social life they have to receive recognition otherwise they will take it, and at work place they will do what ever they can to gain the top position, even if that means to kill with a smile those that are around them.Narcissist boss is a person who will see the beautiful potential of you, but will do everything to make sure your light Heart will shine by their authority. Any good new ideas that you will give that boss, at first they will denied, and suddenly in a different time that boss will present those ideas as if it was their own. Narcissist boss will put doubts in your good work, only to break your self-confidence and will try to make you fear from experiencing yourself. Narcissist boss will create new false things for you to do to follow. They will create things only to make you disbelief yourself. They will call you to let you know how they appreciate the work or the relationship, but very short after, calling you again, and starting to ask you to change what you are doing, as their way of mind control. They can’t have someone with them to receive complaints, simply because in their mind, it takes away their place of being in the center. It’s is very difficult for them to allow someone else to take the center place.
If they need to compliment you, they will express words according to what the good ethics codes of behavior require, but because they will feel as if their moment to shine was taken, then unfortunately they will make you pay for that moment by demanding more from you, stressing you, clamming that they helped you to get to where you are, even though it has nothing to do with them. They will check you in a way that they know it will make you uncomfortable, only so they can have you come to them for approval, to get them to allow or agree with your actions. If a Narcissist give you a job to do with a schedule, shortly after they will “drive you nuts” in simple words, to check with you on the progress, but it is more in line with the earlier points that mention here. If you start to do something new that get others’ attention, they will express their opinion that you need to stop doing that, or to do it according to their agenda. They can speak in a soft voice, or to say that they understand your frustration and pain, yet they will force you to do things that you know in your Heart that it’s not the right way. If you will do something that they ask you to do, be prepared that they will take credit for most of the work, while mentioning you as a source. You are unable to predict any of their next moves or behavior, because of how unsecure they always think that they are, and in their view, you might be the reason for that. Narcissist don’t know how to enjoy or to relax, because they always feel the need to check you and everyone.
Once you realize that you are with a narcissist, the best solution for you is to disconnect yourself from this type of negative connection. Remember, this is not a relationship that you are having. It is an unawareness position of you submitting yourself to that person. No one should feel obligated to be in this situation. This was never a relationship, and the moment that you can remove yourself from this negative connection, there will be some personal healing process for you to heal yourself.