1.Yes.
2.Only for the unfortunate ones.
3.Good can’t be without suffering.
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According to some religious, certain faiths and beliefs, one way to approach life hardship and challenges is by the understanding and accepting that there is a reason for those difficult events to take place because it meant to be as part of the suffering that one need to go through. If that was true, one should ask a parent why did you brought this child to a world of suffering? Is this a love of a parent to send a child to the world, so the child will suffer? Clearly we can say that this is not the answer or the intention of a parent for their child, so there need to be a better understanding.
Life provides each one of us some events that are not simple to accept, hard to handle, difficult to go through them. However, each weight of any event comes as a result of our personal reaction, approach, and attitudes. It is by our own personal perspective what type of emotions and feelings we decide to invest towards that specific event, which will also prompt us to create thoughts around that event, that will only lead to more feelings and emotions and on. For some hard and difficult events there is an expected behavior, as for example by the death of a close one, it is clear that certain emotions and feelings will be expressed. The question is for how long and in what level of capacity? In the book of Ecclesiastes Chapter 3 it start by the following: “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;…”. It teach us that in life there is a cyclicality for everything that is part of this world, and within those cycles expect to experience the opposite results as well. Like that, in away, also with life events there should be a window of time, not a limited time but a frame of time for certain emotions and feelings to be express naturally, and the ability to move forward with life.
When hard or difficult event happen to an individual, it is by their own conception, their own interpretation, their own personal connection, which will result in the kind of reaction to that hard event and the negative impact that it will put on that individual. For each one and how each one choose to engage with that difficult event. Emotions and feelings should not be ignore, but to guide yourself to grow through this challenging event, especially that it will not become overwhelm for you to get back with your life. In any event there is no intention for each of us to suffer, unless it is deliberately done, like the Nazi party did. Yet, even then, there are stories of survivors who shared that they understood that the Nazi took their body, but their Soul and Spirit they will never be able to take, and that kept their spirit up to handle all the horror that was around them
Although the Buddha speaks about suffering, and that suffering is part of the road to freedom, the same example of the parent that give birth to a child, can be ask here, and therefore in order to provide a better understanding regarding why each one of us go through difficulties I will ask to replace this word with the word RESILIENCE. After all, a parent doesn’t mean to bring to a world of “suffering” a child. A parent bring to a world a child to love, nourish care and grow through the resilience that they will be able to develop and discover for themselves. According to the dictionary the meaning that is giving to the word Resilience are two: 1.The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. 2. The ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity. According to the first definition there need to be a time frame to deal with hard events, and for each one it will be different, but each one need to find the way to recover themselves. According to the second definition, it is not enough for one to know how to recover, but it is also important to find and have the ability to experience life to the fullest as it was before the difficult event, with the understanding for what was taken away.