Revisiting past events provide (Choose yours):

1.Answers.

2.Forgiveness.

3.Understanding and clarity.

4…………………………………………………

 

 

As we grow up, there is a moment in each one life that seeks to go back to a certain event from your past, which was not resolved, or create an impact on you that you still carry with you. The desire to revisit that event from the past can help to reflect from a grown-up perspective, a connection to the bigger picture in some cases, but to open a new Pandora box that will take you in an interesting maze, sometimes to where you intend to reach, but on others, to some uncomfortable places. If that event involve someone else from your past, it very important how you should take and calculate your steps so the end result will be for the good of both sides. As long as you understand for yourself what is your intention, and what you are trying to achieve, while remember to stay in the same line focus and not falling to more confusion, then your ability to help your Heart to provide you with balance between your emotions and thoughts, while eliminating any feeling from the past to relive again.

Reaching the situation while seeing the other side as equal as you are, making the path to be open, honest and sincere regarding the past is understandable. However, what do you feel that the best approach and strategy can be? It seems that there can be different ways. However, when you keep your attention to maintain your Heart strong and stable, you will be able to activate a productive result that will be appreciate and value by both sides.

Before you are deciding to reach someone, be aware that your approach is not a confrontation approach, but a humble and sincere, that allow to bring to the surface the truth and the positive solution. Try to vision one solution where you are getting what you seek to find, how will that make you feel? Can you feel a difference? The same visionary exercise regarding if the result will not be what you seeks, how will that make you feel?
Another approach can be to find a path of forgiveness in both, from the beautiful and compassionate Heart that you have.
Look at your life and what you have become and accomplish. If it wasn’t for the past environment which you grew up in, maybe you wouldn’t have build those skills that you have today. If you were growing up and had not need to face or to deal with that event, whom would you be today? As hard as it can be accepted, can those past events also help to shape the good qualities that you hold today? Most importantly ask yourself what your heart need now, moving forward?
If you could change something from your past, are you able to tell yourself where you could have been today?. We don’t know who you would have grow up to become. Having the ability to understand the bigger picture can illuminate in some cases a better understanding regarding the past actions, and only a possibility for what could have happened otherwise. There is always the objective truth, standing clear, but that can be in contrast against what you want or what you believe. The resolution for what hold you from your past can come as long as you understand that you need to take all options to your account.
Taking a healthy moment for observation from your point of view as well to get answers from the other side point of view,  but mainly for both of you to explore the possibility of forgiveness.

Finding the answers is not always what we want, to give us the opportunity for peace.